If you are hoping AI can rescue your dating life, Rhik Samadder’s latest experiment is probably the reality check you need.
In his latest first-person piece, Samadder decided to let AI take the lead on his love life as part of a broader six-week experiment. This had him hand pieces of his daily routine over to AI chatbots, including writing his dating profile, helping with messages, choosing his outfit, and even feeding him conversation prompts during an actual date. And the result was less romantic breakthrough and more social car crash.
How bad could it be?
The first warning sign came early. Samadder asked the AI to write his dating profile, and it produced a polished, quirky blurb about being a “creative type with nerd firmware” and bringing “plot twists.” This immediately raised red flags, but the discomfort only grew once the chatbot started steering the actual interaction.
To his credit, Samadder was upfront with his date about the experiment. He told her AI would help write his messages, choose the date, and supply prompts for conversation. She agreed to go along with it, which is already more generous than most people would be.
The real problem wasn’t the words. It was the vibe
Once the date started, the chatbot’s advice turned painfully awkward. Samadder complimented his date’s hair by saying it had “pure A24 energy,” then had to literally turn away and ask the AI to explain what that meant when she looked confused. Later, he tried another AI-fed line about television pioneer John Logie Baird living in her neighborhood, which again fell flat.
His date quickly found the problem. She told the AI-generated messages sound emotionally intelligent, but lacked the genuine vibe. She even summed it up perfectly by saying, “You sound like a therapist who’s been struck off.”
So the takeaway is clear. AI can mimic confidence, but it can’t create chemistry.